Empowering Self-Talk: Fuel Your Soul and Find Purpose in Motherhood

When morning emotions must be met with empowering self talk, daily affirmations, motivating soulful thoughts and a determined sense of purpose (in both the personal and sentimental aspect) of motherhood…

Living with optimism after returning to work*

Morning emotions…

This morning, I woke up feeling weighed down by emotions. Returning to work and being separated from my children early in the day has made me appreciate every moment, when I am home with them, even more. Before my little ones woke up this morning (a day off morning), I took the time to watch them sleep, kiss their cheeks, tuck in their adorable toes peeking out from under the blankets, and savor the tranquility of the moment. As I prepared my first cup of coffee in the peaceful atmosphere, I suddenly heard the sound of their little feet running down the hallway and I was beyond excited to see them.

During the peaceful moment, before they awoke, when I sipped my coffee and observed the sunrise beginning to take shape, a thought crossed my mind. It was a thought that I hadn't been able to contemplate or jot down recently due to my busy schedule since returning to work. I missed them. I felt like I was missing out. This triggers deep sadness and fear. It left me questioning my choices and my heart was heavy. My longing to write, be present and share these feelings with other moms hit hard.

I hope that by sharing relatable feelings, emotions and the ache in your heart that you feel (always) as a mother will help you and other mothers to fully embrace the present moment and all of its beauty. Some might call this "Romanticizing your life" in recent times, but I prefer to view it as being in tune with your soul, the universe, and one's authentic purpose in life.

The peaceful silence at this moment filled me with a sudden burst of energy to start typing...

Here are some words of encouragement and inspiration that came to me and I couldn’t help but share with you:

Morning hustle and bustle in mom life/ returning to work or just straight up chaos…

Frequently, we find ourselves hurriedly moving from one location to another, from one moment to the next, without pausing to offer words of encouragement or share valuable experiences with fellow mothers.

Let’s slow down???

Let's take a moment to pause, appreciate the present, and support one another.

Acts of kindness:

Let's hold the door open for a fellow mother and her baby, offer words of encouragement to a new mom who is doing an amazing job despite sleep deprivation, and inquire how we can assist other mothers!

Let's refrain from criticizing mothers with crying children, let's avoid doubting their parenting abilities, and let's shift our perspective to focus on how we can support fellow mothers in embracing motherhood.

Apologetically too much hustle and bustle:

Recently, I haven't been able to dedicate as much time to writing as I would prefer. However, I'd like to share some words of encouragement for fellow mothers who may be feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or exhausted, and questioning if they are on the right path.

To THRIVE in this motherhood role... we must constantly remind ourselves how important we are and how important it is to set the tone for our children’s lives, in every single cherished moment of every day.

Below are some strategies to help us flourish as moms.

Start your day with a: pause, reflect and breathe mentality… in their world you are their entire world!

When exhuastion takes over, when you feel overwhelmed, when you aren’t sure your purpose, when you don’t know if what your doing with your life is right.. read on… stay with me …

These affirmations encourage mothers to share laughter, support each other through tears, and contemplate the realities of our daily motherhood experiences:

Persist in your efforts as a mother, even when you experience feelings of inadequacy.

You are doing an excellent job. Things sometimes need to get harder before they get easier.

Prepare your soul for a new beginning. Remember that you are loved unconditionally, always have been, and can always give love, even when you may feel disconnected from your children.

Through tantrums and tears, stand strong. You can do this. When returning to work you will often feel heartache and pain, push through this and instead cherish the moments you are together. Hold them a little closer, study their faces a little more and remind yourself that you too need to push on.

If you ever feel uninspired about important things or catch yourself disrupting your daily habits, and dwelling on self-doubt and self-criticism about your abilities... rise once more and embrace a winning mindset by creating a solid plan of positive thinking.

You display great courage. It is difficult to be home, it is difficult to be at work, remember you are courageous for whichever path is your journey.

Develop a strategy to forgive, forget, evolve, and expand your understanding of motherhood, your life's purpose, and your meaning.

You possess strength you did not know existed before being a mother.

Frequently, we find ourselves stuck in the mindset that we have not succeeded in life or as a mother. We tend to believe that one failure or mistake defines us as complete failures. 

You have come too far to give up now. Set your career goal or focus on what you really want, what would make you happiest. Work towards that goal.

You can accomplish anything with the right mindset. Fill your thoughts with positive thinking, positive people and a positive lifestyle.

You were created for this adventure, let go of the guilt and prioritize self-care; it's not selfish, but rather essential for your well-being.

The experience involves both a mental exploration and a physical journey.

In life, in motherhood, and throughout this journey of new experiences and endings, of highs and lows, of happiness and sorrow, and of doubts about your capabilities as a mother, it is essential to persevere and keep striving to be the best mother you aspire to become.

Give yourself permission to not feel under so much pressure as a mother.

Give yourself permission to expand and develop.

It is completely acceptable to cry as a mother. It is also perfectly fine not to shed tears. It is normal to desire more beyond motherhood while also cherishing every moment spent in it.

You are not just a mother; nevertheless, motherhood is a fundamental aspect of your identity, shaping who you are, who you have evolved into, and will continue to influence your future self.

Be proud of the progress you have made and savor every moment of the journey of motherhood. Soak it all in and rejuvenate your soul.

I appreciate you dedicating your time to read this, and I trust that it strikes a chord with you and sparks a positive perspective along this motherhood adventure. Keep fueling your soul with positivity, creativity and continuous love.

-Melody Stone-

Writer of this blog focusing on motherhood, producer of uplifting content to bring joy to your face, aiming to be a source of motivation through words, a mother of three who longs to simply empower others, while embracing the beautiful and heartfelt moments of being a mom.