Hey Mama, Friend, Parent.... thanks for checking in... this post is a little intro and backdrop to why I created this blog +who I hope to inspire in motherhood (you)...
Motherhood, a feeling of riding a wave on the ocean, the state of being a mother. Unexpected amounts of movement, sometimes high and sometimes low. Often from the surface everything looks clear and concise along the sparkly waters, but underneath there is an entire ocean of life and movement. Often there are daily challenges and skills that are needed to use our new surf boards in order to ride the never-ending Mom wave. The wave that so easily can consume your entire physical and mental being. Challenges that only through experiences and sharing with others you can learn and understand.
For too long I felt like I didn’t have the right surf board to accept the motherhood role. I too often felt like I was drowning and could barely come up enough to the surface for air. Yet, very rarely did I hear other Mom's talk about these feelings of overwhelm. I often felt extreme happiness, excitement and loved being a Mom. Also, there were times of complete exhaustion, panic and chaos that had me feeling like the waves kept pouring over me and just when I thought I had grasped standing up and seeing the sunshine, down back I went.
This blog is an exploration of motherhood from a real Mom’s point of view. No fluff. No jargon. I want to share the truth, the real and the raw behind motherhood. My hope is that from sharing my experiences I can help other Moms out there who feel the same way. We can learn and grow to thrive as Moms.
My story started like this…
Solo parenting three children while my husband was deployed overseas. It had currently been 6 months and I finally decided to open my heart and start blogging. I wanted to share with other Mom's who need the support, or can relate to the challenges or hardships, or want to share a laugh so deep you cry a little!!!
Any positive outlet is a good outlet, you feel me Mama?
When my husband left my youngest was 4 months old, my middle son was 17 months old, and my oldest son was age 5. That's right... THREE boys and three very different age groups.
Adulting alone and feeling like I was literally living the same day over and over again (groundhog day/hamster wheel of motherhood/adulting). I found myself researching everything from solo parenting, home organization for disorganized Mom’s, to children’s toys and activities. Grasping at ideas on how to get through this time as a solo parent in the few minutes of scrolling I had on my phone during breastfeeding or my middle son’s nap time.
I finally realized I had to make it work and make the decision that I was going to do this. I wasn’t the happiest, I felt alone and isolated. The joys of being a new mom and new firsts to share with my husband had quickly passed under me as I took in that hey I'm in this alone. I was determined to make the changes, somehow (even though it felt like I had zero spare time or mental capacity), to thrive as a solo parent, but I had no idea how to do this. I had to stop relying on other people to step up and make time for me, as caring and kind as my family and friends were to help, there was only me with these three littles for the majority of the time. I had to somehow juggle and create the time to do things that would benefit me and my family, which I'll be sharing in my following posts, I also needed to figure out how to make this time pretty amazing!! No more feeling like I was in the trenches and in the midst of triage (which baby needs me more, alternate crying and rocking). I was so sick of feeling like I was drowning or barely treading to survive as a Mom.
SO… this is where it begins… THE BEGINNING. The tide is out and the journey to the water is worth the wading.
How can I stop surviving motherhood and start thriving as a mom?
... welcome to Thrive Mama Thrive ^^
My goal is to answer that question and help you +other moms do the same.. check out my other blog posts for inspiration and tips on how to thrive in motherhood....
🖤 - 𝓜𝓮𝓵𝓸𝓭𝔂 𝓢𝓽𝓸𝓷𝓮
(I took this photo a few minutes down the road from my home, the ocean truly inspired me, what inspires you?)