Hey Mama! Melody here...
Do you feel like you are constantly riding on a roller coaster as a mom?
One moment you are so high up, you are terrified for your life but the spontaneity of your new journey is equally exhilarating, then you instantly are at the lowest part of the same ride and you only want to go back up again to feel that intense happiness, joy or excitement?
I see you and I can relate to how you are feeling on this motherhood journey.
We are in this together... so let's talk about it... #motherhoodunplugged #momlifebelike
As a Mom, you will have highs of motherhood, highs that make you want to laugh so hard that you cry and joys that make you so thankful to be a mother.
Following these highs of motherhood, you will have lows that make you want to scream, lows of wanting to sit in your closet and cry, or you may want to escape to your shower hoping for some (any) solitude or personal space.
... Can you relate? Calling all moms, please tell me you have felt this way or feel this way too? #momssupportingmoms #inspireothermoms
The highs of motherhood:
You will learn how to truly LOVE and CARE for someone, other than yourself.
You will experience personal growth.
You will learn how to relive childhood and ENJOY feeling like a child again (we are all just big kids or at least we can pretend to be for a little while again).
You will build better habits and may learn to develop a routine that sets you and your family up for success.
You will get to see yourself in your kids and watch them grow into the best versions of you!
You will learn to become a teacher and create a special bond with your students/children.
You will have a family that does not judge you, they only love you and love everything about you, you are their world.
Often, I feel like I could fill an entire ocean full of tears. Tears of joy, happiness, excitement, satisfaction, fun and love. I feel similar feelings of motherhood when I escape to my happy place. What is your happy place?
Mine is.. the ocean... so, here we go... inhale and exhale, just for a second...
Breathe in the ocean for a minute. Soak up the sunshine on your face. Feel the breeze pass up and under your body, like a wave slowly creeping up to the shoreline, inhale and grasp onto this moment. Take this breather, grasp hold of this memory and ride away on this wave.
As a wave has both highs and lows, motherhood too feels like a continuous, yet unexpected variation, of a moving motion.
I feel like since I became a mother it has brought me to experience and feel so many different emotions and feelings. I find the highs and lows to be so drastic at times and often it consumes most of me entirely. Do you feel this way too? How do you learn from these feelings? How do you share with other moms so that growing together, is possible, in this new role?
I wanted to talk about the highs and lows specifically in relation to being a military wife and living through a 1-year deployment with three kids. #armywife #survivingdeployment #thriveasamilitaryspouse
I have learned so many things that I want to share with you. My goal is to hopefully help other moms (especially solo parenting moms, moms experiencing deployments, long distance relationship families and single parents... but really ALL MOMS because we are in this together) to better understand and learn how to thrive as a mom... so let's look at these aspects of motherhood:
what to expect in the motherhood role in terms of our emotions
what can help us grasp onto the motherhood role
what can make your life easier as a mom once we accept these feelings
Let's pause, regroup and look at how we can support other moms who are going through the same feelings and waves of emotions.
Often in motherhood you feel so alone and so isolated. You feel like you are on a lost island. You keep waiting and waiting for a ship, any ship, to come and to save you. Or at least a ship to arrive and bring you supplies that will help make you thrive on that island of solitude. Or even, anyone or anything, to have some benefit to you (maybe you need an uplifting message, words of affirmation or a coffee - likely a shower haha).
What to expect? I GET THE LONELY. I get the overwhelm. I get the lows.
Motherhood is beautiful and messy.
As a Mom you may feel success and failure, daily and often, intertwined.
As a Mom you may feel overwhelmed and excited.
As a Mom you may feel energized, also equally exhausted.
The lows... motherhood will challenge you. Motherhood will challenge your relationship. The hardest part of your new role is that it will make you question yourself and if you are truly capable of doing this mom thing.
Remember what you have done and remind yourself that you are capable of anything. You have birthed a child, for that reason alone you are truly a superhero. Just remind yourself. Stop doubting your abilities in the motherhood role and stop judging yourself!
What can help us grasp on and accept this mom thing? How can we thrive together?
Here are 3 ways to thrive as a mom, when you feel overwhelmed with emotions and aren't sure how to escape them:
Cheer on and connect with other moms. It is so easy to slink back into our shell and hide. Stop hiding. Start sharing, reaching out and ask for positivity in your life! You need less judgement and criticism. You need support from other moms. Find a support group, a neighbor, a family member... anyone that will uplift you in this stage of your life. Positivity is contagious and this might just bring you the peace and joy you need to truly thrive in this mom gig.
Embrace your emotions, let them out and learn from them. What triggers them? What can you do to change those triggers? Focus on the positive triggers and make sure you fill your calendar and your day with only those!!!
You don't need a break from your baby... you need a break from the constant demand of motherhood. It is extremely demanding being on deck, especially when you feel no relief and like you have no outlet, so it's super important that you take a break from the demands. Even if this means asking for help with the everyday tasks and enjoying some alone time in the bathtub. I get the attachment, the longing for togetherness and the connection that you are feeling with your babies/children. I am all for keeping those feelings strong and I don't suggest jumping ship too quick, however, if you need a reset that is okay mama, go take a few minutes of me time (do what feels right to you and what you can handle doing).
Thank you for reading Thrive Mama Thrive Blog and I hope we can learn to thrive together as moms. If anyone can be your cheerleader it's me, I get you Mama!
🖤 - 𝓜𝓮𝓵𝓸𝓭𝔂 𝓢𝓽𝓸𝓷𝓮